1. Hearing your BF’s phone go off and not feeling the
immediate urge to look at it.
With all of the ways someone could cheat on you these days,
it’s understandable to be nervous about what your S.O. is doing on their phone
while you’re not looking. Or, it’s normal to feel that way when you first start
dating. But once you’ve established trust, you should no longer spend time
being concerned about who that text they just got is from.
2. Being able to go a few days without seeing each other and
not feeling totally freaked out about it.
You know you’re in a good place when you can go a few days
without seeing your S.O., and although you miss each other, it’s not the end of
the world. This past year, I went to Spain for a week without my boyfriend. I
missed him and he missed me, but we didn’t spend the whole time trying to talk
or crying about how much we missed each other. It’s so important to be able to
have your own lives and do your own things sometimes. Don’t get me wrong, it’s
also important to experience things together, but if you’re too dependent on
each other, that’s not good.
3. Getting into a fight and realizing that fight doesn’t
automatically mean you’re going to break up.
When you first start dating someone, getting into an
argument with them makes you feel all sorts of nervous about whether or not the
relationship will end because of it. After you’ve been together for a while,
you realize that little arguments every once in a while are normal and aren’t
the end of everything. That sounds depressing, but it’s actually where you want
to be.
4. Going out with your friends and not being bombarded by
texts from him asking what you’re doing.
You know what’s not cute? Trying to hang out with your friends
during a girl’s night but having to field 20 different texts from your
boyfriend who is freaking out because he’s not with you. You know what IS cute?
Having a fun night out and then texting your BF afterwards to chat.
5. Not feeling the need to text each other 24/7.
Speaking of texting, you should WANT to get to the point in
your relationship where you two don’t feel the need to be tethered to your
phone. Again, it’s important to do your own thing without being totally
dependent on each other.
6. Being able to be alone with his mom for more than five
minutes without wanting to run and hide.
Once you’re able to hang out with his family even if he’s
not around, you know you’ve made it.
7. Hanging out but just sitting next to each other doing
your own thing and feeling comfortable.
There’s something really nice about a hangout sesh with your
boyfriend that involves you reading a book while he watches his show. It’s nice
to be able to do your own thing while still being together. Of course, every
single hangout shouldn’t be you guys doing this, but you know what I mean.
8. Not feeling like you have to have sex every time you see
each other.
Sex is great, but it’s not the only part of a relationship.
It’s nice to get to a point where you don’t feel like you HAVE to do it every
single time you see each other – you do it if you want!
9. Leaving your phone laying around because you know he/she
isn’t going to go through it.
Worrying about your boyfriend going through your texts
because he’s jealous? Not cool. I see a lot of #relationshipgoals posts like,
“when he doesn’t have a passcode on his phone” or “when he asks you to check
his new text instead of checking it himself.” To me, this seems more like a
#goal for the girl to be able to go through his stuff when she wants than a
#goal of trust.
10. Being able to tell bae you think someone else is cute
without them freaking out and vice versa.
Hi, newsflash: attraction to others does not magically
disappear when you enter a relationship. You’re still going to think other
people are cute, and the same goes for your significant other. Once you can
stop acting like noticing someone’s looks is cheating, you’re in a pretty good
place together.
11. Laughing during sex because something weird AF just
happened.
You know what’s weird? Sex. Funny, embarrassing things
happen, and if you can laugh about them with your partner instead of feeling
the urge to run away, you’re in a good place.
12. Taking care of each other when one of you is sick.
You know you’ve reached #goals level when your boyfriend is
happy to take care of you when you’re not feeling well.
13. Feeling comfortable enough to be totally gross around
each other.
If you still have to pretend like you don’t fart or poop or
burp because lol you’re a *~*girl*~* that stinks. Being able to be “gross” in
front of your partner indicates a level of comfort and trust that is amazing to
have.
14. Talking about future plans without wondering if they’ll
actually happen.
It’s so nice to discuss your plans for a vacation in a year without
wondering to yourself, “Will we really still be together in a year?”
15. Having a whole conversation in inside jokes that no one
else understands.
One of the cutest relationship goals is getting to that
point where you have enough inside jokes to have entire conversations together
that other people don’t get.
16. Not even having to ask if they’re coming with you to an
event because you know they will.
You were invited to a party? Your S.O. will probably be with
you. Got a plus one to a wedding? No need to stress about that. Your
significant other doesn’t have to do EVERYTHING with you, but it’s nice to know
they probably will if you need them to.
17. Or when his family assumes you’re coming to something
without even asking.
Isn’t it so nice when his family or friends just assume
you’re going to be around because they’re so used to you being there? Awwww.
18. Finding TV shows you binge watch together instead of
going out.
Going out and being social is great! But it’s nice to also
be the couple who can spend an entire weekend in bed watching the same TV show
and being cozy together.
19. Not feeling pressured to write about how great your
relationship is on social media because you don’t need to.
There’s nothing wrong with letting the world know how you feel
about bae. But when you feel the need to make a spectacle of your relationship
every single day, it seems like you’re over-compensating. It seems like it’s
too much. Relationships are about two people, not about the attention two
people can get by making others jealous.
20. Getting excited to see each other even after a long time
of being together.
Even after years of dating, you should still feel a little
bit of excitement about getting to see your boo. That’s a good sign!
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