It’s not about short-term fixes, one-night stands, or anything that adds another notch Marriage is an increasingly unnatural and confusing thing for most couples today.to your bedpost. Good Guy Swag is about becoming the best man you can be so you can attract the best woman for you. And it’s about pursuing her into the dating process and through marriage.
Wearing a mask is exhausting. Putting on a front takes ridiculous effort. You are not the same person when you strive and become desperate. We pound the ground, get caught up in distraction, stir up dust, creating a snow globe of confusion and illusion, and when we are tired from the effort, our feet slow down, the dust begins to settle, we finally rest, and there lies our authentic self. Humbled, we face ourselves; or embarrassed, we finally expose the true self to everyone close to us.
We create dust bowls just to get in relationships. The impression we make is a whole new front as we strive to find “the one.” We’ve all heard the old adage, “After six months of dating, you’ll finally discover who they really are.” In other words, six month in, we become comfortable, let our guards down, and reveal the true self, and the other half isn’t impressed rightfully so.
We try and find the perfect mate who will keep the illusory dust image around us. However, a spouse cannot complete you, and deep down, we know that. If we have no interest in dealing with our issues, we really just want someone who can hide our true selves away, and make us forget any pain we’ve been dealt.
Who are you when the dust settles? If marriage is about becoming the right person, then it all begins at ground zero. It begins with an honest assessment, an unconditional acceptance, and a desire to be better than where we are at this moment. It’s also the realization we cannot become the right person alone.
There’s a reason one of the best self-improvement programs is Alcoholics Anonymous.
Take off the mask and let the dust settle. Become an authentic man. Maybe we need to accept our imperfections, and find refuge in a savior outside of ourselves. Maybe we need others around us who will push us to a higher standard of living, and maybe we need to change our way of thinking and begin a new life.
You choose. Which do you want: to hide behind the illusion and be covered by a dust storm, or be covered a redeeming unconditional love?
Wearing a mask is exhausting. Putting on a front takes ridiculous effort. You are not the same person when you strive and become desperate. We pound the ground, get caught up in distraction, stir up dust, creating a snow globe of confusion and illusion, and when we are tired from the effort, our feet slow down, the dust begins to settle, we finally rest, and there lies our authentic self. Humbled, we face ourselves; or embarrassed, we finally expose the true self to everyone close to us.
We create dust bowls just to get in relationships. The impression we make is a whole new front as we strive to find “the one.” We’ve all heard the old adage, “After six months of dating, you’ll finally discover who they really are.” In other words, six month in, we become comfortable, let our guards down, and reveal the true self, and the other half isn’t impressed rightfully so.
We try and find the perfect mate who will keep the illusory dust image around us. However, a spouse cannot complete you, and deep down, we know that. If we have no interest in dealing with our issues, we really just want someone who can hide our true selves away, and make us forget any pain we’ve been dealt.
Who are you when the dust settles? If marriage is about becoming the right person, then it all begins at ground zero. It begins with an honest assessment, an unconditional acceptance, and a desire to be better than where we are at this moment. It’s also the realization we cannot become the right person alone.
There’s a reason one of the best self-improvement programs is Alcoholics Anonymous.
Take off the mask and let the dust settle. Become an authentic man. Maybe we need to accept our imperfections, and find refuge in a savior outside of ourselves. Maybe we need others around us who will push us to a higher standard of living, and maybe we need to change our way of thinking and begin a new life.
You choose. Which do you want: to hide behind the illusion and be covered by a dust storm, or be covered a redeeming unconditional love?