"Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against
them." -Colossians 3:19
It is a sin for a
husband to abuse his wife. No man should ever physically abuse his wife. Yes,
it happens in many marriages, but it is a sin. I have more respect for a
drug-dealer than I do for a big husband who will hit a defenseless wife. It is
a wicked horrible sin!!!
Abuse from your husband could be either physical
or mental. There are various indicators that can help you determine whether or
not your husband is abusive toward you or your family.
Evaluate your husband's
behavior to determine whether you should seek help before his actions escalate
into spousal abuse that involves physical violence.
Control
An emotionally abusive husband may attempt to
make you feel subservient to keep you trapped in the marriage. A controlling
spouse may assert dominance by controlling the finances and giving you a small
allowance, making all of the household decisions and treating you like a
servant. He may also limit your opportunities to see friends and family
members, and prevent you from getting a job so that you are emotionally and
economically dependent on him.
Humiliation
Having your husband insult and humiliate you in
public and private may be a sign of emotional abuse. People who are emotionally
abusive toward others may put friends and loved ones down in front of others.
Your husband may also have a habit of disregarding your feelings toward
mistreatment. If he's emotionally abusive he may call you names or humiliate
you in front of friends by pointing out your faults or reacting sarcastically
when you offer your opinion.
Jealousy
Extreme jealousy may also be an emotional abuse
sign. An abusive husband may ask for detailed accounts of everything you do
when you're apart, consider any interaction with another man an act of
flirtation, frequently accuse you of infidelity or act possessive of you when
the two of you are out in public. You may be an emotional abuse victim if
you're apprehensive whenever a man looks or smiles at you in public because you
fear that your spouse will read too much into it.
Intimidation
If your husband is emotionally abusive, a sign
of this abuse is that you may feel timid or apprehensive when he is around
because you fear you'll trigger his wrath. An emotionally abusive spouse may
use threats of physical violence, statements that he'll end the marriage or
unpredictable, emotional outbursts to unsettle you, so you'll be too afraid to
assert yourself.
Denial
If your husband is emotionally abusive, he may
use excuses and accusations to make you believe that his behavior is your
fault, notes the Help Guide website. Your spouse may claim that your ignorance,
mistakes, secrecy or flirtation was the reason for a recent outburst. He may
indicate that your stupidity requires him to control all of your finances and
control all of the family decisions. The Help Guide also states that an abusive
husband may deny the severity of his hurtful actions, trivialize your reactions
or blame his behavior on stress or a bad day.